Stage
2: Working with the trauma
- this means getting to know who the different personalities are and why they were created in the first place, which in turn means remembering the trauma, and often abuse, that happened;
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this can be a very painful process but it
can also be quite profound as the person learns all who are inside her and the
importance of each and every personality;
- dealing with the past is very hard work and the person needs the best support possible. It is the time of realizing just how much he was betrayed;
- this is also a stage where strongly held beliefs are challenged. Often abusers tell their victims many lies in order to transfer their guilt to the child. Being a child means having no choice but to believe. Many survivors of abuse wrongly believe that the abuse was their fault, despite the fact that they were young and helpless;
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this can be a good time for the
personalities to begin learning how to support each other through the pain of
remembering. A good time to learn how to appreciate each other and take care of
each other.