One of the
most amazing things about being multiple is when the personalities work
together for whatever purposes.
They can also collaborate and co-operate in the healing process. This is one of the most profound and powerful experiences I have ever had. When we started to remember the abuse in therapy some of us would whisk the child personalities away so they would not have to experience the pain. Some would remember while others held their hands and comforted them. Some would provide visual imagery of dealing with the abusers so they would never hurt us again. We were able to really take care of ourselves during the most difficult times of healing.
Many times personalities will form groups. Many of them may already be in families. During the healing process they may find that forming teams to manage different things and keep the person somewhat functional really helps.
They can do
that in trying to pass as each other and hide the multiplexity.
They can also collaborate and co-operate in the healing process. This is one of the most profound and powerful experiences I have ever had. When we started to remember the abuse in therapy some of us would whisk the child personalities away so they would not have to experience the pain. Some would remember while others held their hands and comforted them. Some would provide visual imagery of dealing with the abusers so they would never hurt us again. We were able to really take care of ourselves during the most difficult times of healing.
Many times personalities will form groups. Many of them may already be in families. During the healing process they may find that forming teams to manage different things and keep the person somewhat functional really helps.
‘Holdon and I really decide who comes
out. We function together most of the time. .. When Karen is out, we usually
don’t interrupt her until she wants to go inside. Then Holdon or I .. will send
someone else out. Sometimes we’ll be inside attending to the children and not
be available, and Sandy or someone else will come out. When we send one of the
children out, we will supervise them by talking to them so they won’t be found
out.’ (Switching Time see BOOKS, ARTICLES)
‘Well, Karen goes up to [their pet
bird], and then somehow she steps back, … and then each part will come out for
a couple minutes. It’s like they hand off the tasks to each other, with just a
little pause for the transition to take place.’ (Switching Time see BOOKS,
ARTICLES)
An example of personalities passing as each other
…’I’ve been around Eve White long enough to
know exactly how she talks and how she does. When I have to, I can put on a
pretty damn good job of acting like her… I couldn’t very well act like my own
self around her family, could I? Or around anybody who knows her real well?
Then it’d really be hell to pay. ..’ (The
3 Faces of Eve see BOOKS, ARTICLES)
MY EXPERIENCE
We also formed
groups after we began to get to know each other based on similar interests. We
had a group for those who liked to sing, those who liked to dance and those who
liked to do art. We had a group that was in charge of “hope”, and a group who
loved to really use their brain and be mentally challenged. 